27 Apr 2005 @ 07:35, by Ge Zi
Here is what I came up with in my deep meditation after becoming an eCommercer. I had mentioned that it had been a spiritual experience to see my own feelings sending out a blunt advertizing to all my friends and family.
A quote came to mind that is attributed to one Mr. Lafayette Ron Hubbard:
If you worry about people, you never climb a steeple.
I don't really know if that is a real quote of him as I got it only hundredth hand or so in a text file many years ago and it had made it into my quote collection together with gems like
If in doubt - communicout.
Oh, well - I could not help it ;-)
But back to that first quote. After the initial shock - because that is definitely not politically correct - it sounds very darn true. The quote is not 'if you care about people' but 'worry' about people, and we all know that worrying is the most perfectly wasted time of them all - or did you ever have a situation occur just as you worried and thought about it would be?
And worrying about people is actually not the worry about the other people but mostly the worry about how other people will react towards you.
The worry about how I will look in the eye of another. Something I have absolutely no control over. How is that for waste of time?
And I guess that is exactly what was my concern in sending emails out to people that knew me as a very different person, for whom that e-mail would be a break of the image that they had about me, one that I probably had built.
I like to preach to my peers not to do that, "it does not matter how these cloth look on you as long as you like them" for example, but here I nicely saw why I am preaching - I talk to myself - this is what I have to learn - interesting!
And a conclusion? I guess that for the ability to go full steam ahead it is a necessity not to have this flow of seeing oneself through the eyes of another - with worry how one looks. It takes away much of the energy that we have and should use to go forward.
And about my worries - did I get any negative responses?
What do you think?
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